- Post by:- Gurgaon Multispeciality Clinic
- Feb 15, 2022
Studies suggest that an average person has more than 6,000 thoughts in a day – in just one day! The quality of life that someone leads is highly dependent on the quality of the thoughts that they have. But here’s the thing – it’s next to impossible to control every single thought. One can’t be expected to leave all their work and monitor each and every thought that crosses their mind. Not only is this not realistic, but it would also be unhealthy because it would drain them of all their energy.
So, now that we know we can’t control every thought, what should we do to improve the quality of them? Here’s a simple yet effective way: Whenever you catch yourself thinking thoughts of sadness, hopelessness, complaints, or any other negative emotion out there, instead of trying to dismiss them, pay close attention to them. And once you’ve done that, start asking them questions. It might seem funny, but it really works. Here are two questions that can help you:
Where does this thought come from?
We all grow up learning things from our surroundings. The majority of the time, the reason we think something is right or wrong, is because that was the way we were taught to think. Because our mind has a habit of picking up thoughts from our surroundings, it gets very easy for it to pick up negative thoughts as well. The next time you find yourself thinking negatively about something, ask yourself if the negative emotions come from your true feelings or from the way you’ve seen others get upset over it.
What is the root cause behind this feeling?
Whenever you find your emotions in the clutches of negativity, try to figure out the root cause behind that emotion. For example, if you feel sad about failing a test or an interview, ask yourself what is it about failure that hurts so badly? If the answer that comes up says it’s because you wanted to prove your worth, ask why do you feel your achievements define your worth? Keep on asking questions until you get to the root cause of it. Most of the time, the root cause is something as simple as wanting to be accepted and to be loved. Once you’ve found the root cause, offer some grace and forgiveness to yourself for being a human and for wanting things that almost every human wants.
It is when you stop running away from negative thoughts that it gets easier to let them go. There is so much power in questioning negativity because it makes negativity lose its control over you. When you ask more questions, all you're doing is not accepting everything that negativity offers you – and that is how you reclaim your power.
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